Jealousy affects our emotions but often enough we don’t actually realise jealousy is a choice. You have way more control than you realise about how you feel about an external event. You have in fact given it meaning.
Our lives are our creations, we get to choose how we feel, how we respond, who we want to be.
So why do we get jealous?
Jealousy is a choice. And if you change the way you think, jealousy goes away. Jealousy can only thrive if you give power to it and decide that there is a threat to your relationship with yourself or another being.
Jealousy shows up when we don’t know our worth, when we doubt ourselves, when we don’t trust our own ability’s and gifts when we have unrealised power. People who are vulnerable to jealousy tend to have a history of complex trauma/abandonment, they struggle with insecurity, have poor emotional management skills, and they tend to battle anxiety, depression, or both.Engulfed in a wave of jealousy, they are incapable of self-soothing or positive self-talk. They literally feel as though their lives are being threatened.
How to overcome jealousy
1. Identify that you have been jealous and reclaim your power
I have at times noticed where I have been jealous and realised my triggers. I usually reaffirm my worth and then celebrate instantly feel powerful. My upbringing meant that I wasn’t able to celebrate success in anyway because my mum had very strong jealous tendencies and we as children mimick that behaviour. I took back my power by realising I have inside my gifts to create a life I will love and nothing can stop me but me.
2. Change the way you see things.
Your point of view is everything. If you see a happy married couple and you are struggling in your relationship or you are single you might feel jealous but instead if you see it as an opportunity to celebrate love you will attract that energy into your own life. Same as when you see people who are successful in their careers.
3. Identify your core beliefs that cause an emotional trigger.
Maybe your strolling through the gram. You see a body you wish you had, someone with a thigh gap you would long for. You see people showing up and excited for life. Maybe you want that but you’re not quite sure how to get it. By judging it ( because you are) you are actually taking yourself further away from achieving it. Celebrating success and achievement means that there is now a possibility for it to exist in your reality.
4. Awareness is key.
It really does help us to see how we are sabotaging our own lives by looking at others as if what they have isn’t possible for us. For my clients I recommend journaling because when we have a thought it’s really good to dig deeper to see what’s buried underneath. Ultimately we don’t have what our hearts desire because we don’t feel worthy of it.
5. Control over where your attention goes.
Energy flows where your attention goes. So if you are judging and becoming jealous of the way people are choosing to live then it because your thoughts are on your external environment and not on your own garden. To really grow out here and live our best lives the attention needs to be on us. If someone living their truth upsets or offends you then you might have to dig deeper into your subconscious. Whatever we judge we block.
Really question your beliefs about success, power., and money. Ask yourself who am I not to be successful, when you dig deep you uncover great truths and this is key to unlocking the potential that lies within.
If you feel jealousy is stopping you from fully showing up to your life. Then book a consultation with me. I would love to help you get back into alignment and start removing the blocks that prevent you from success.
